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Better Living Author May 10, 2019

Turning Resistance to Acceptance: A Guide to Home Care Assistance

What will you do when you want to be there for your loved one, but you lack time or energy to help and support them on a regular basis? Hiring a caregiver to provide respite can be a key! But it’s not just about hiring any caregiver… it’s about hiring the right caregiver.

But what if mom or dad is resistant to have someone visit and provide assistance?

Resistance to care is undoubtedly one of the toughest challenges when dealing with the elderly. For some people, accepting help from a caregiver means giving up their privacy and independence. Having to adjust to new routines or some people may see it as a sign of weakness. Your loved one may think that he or she is becoming a burden to the family and worry about any costs associated with the care.

Communication is key! It’s not a simple yes or no question that you can get in just a matter of days. In fact, in some instances, this conversation can last for a while. But what is important is to start the communication process as early as you identify that your loved one can get some help with their daily task. Include your loved one in the decision-making. Your loved one should always be the center of every discussion. Perhaps, set up a family gathering or meeting to discuss your concerns and emphasize your reasons to convince them to consider help before their health deteriorates further. Give them some time if they continue to resist but ensure to check back on them after a week or so and make sure that they understand that you and the family care about them and their well-being.


How Can Better Living Help?

  • Offer to have someone come in to perform light housekeeping duties even for just a couple of hours each time. Once your loved one and our caregiver build the relationship, the task becomes less important and it will be that person coming in to be their new friend or family.
  • Offer a trial period to receive care for a short period of time and give your loved ones the ability to decide after. This will give them time to feel what receiving care feels like, without the sense of being committed for a long term of service. Often the trial period can turn into a positive experience.
  • Seek professional advice. Here at Better Living Home Care Services, our registered nurses conduct NO obligation, FREE consultation in order to provide support, act as a resource about your medical inquiry as well as provide validation and encouragement.
  • Describe care in a positive way. Explain to your loved ones how extra support can help both of you in the physical, mental and emotional aspect. Respite care provides family caregivers and their loved ones with a break from the daily care routine. It offers a great deal of reassurance, comfort, and peace of mind, knowing that your loved ones are being cared for.

These are sample activities that companionship care involves…

  • Conversation and socialization
  • Stimulation
  • Play board games and cards
  • Teaching basic computer skills – email and web browsing
  • Arts and crafts Projects
  • Crossword puzzles
  • Look at old photos; reminisce
  • Create an indoor ‘garden’
  • Maintain family photo album
  • General encouragement
  • Aid with reading; discuss current events
  • Writing letters or cards
  • Assist with walking & exercises
  • Accompaniment to recreational activities
  • Medication reminders
  • Meal preparation
  • Light housekeeping duties
  • Organizing appointments
  • Safety monitoring
  • Pet care

Get in touch with us at 604-546-7514 to discuss your caregiving needs!

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